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Congrats!!   :thumbup:

WOOOHOOO!!!   We'll be waiting for pictures!   :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap:

HOORAY!   Thanks for sharing this fab news with your Vol pals! 

The night before you might be a little  :crazy: but the day after you will certainly be  :biggrin: .

C'mon, smoke a cigar in advance!   :toothless:

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Fantasic! (watch where you point that camera son, or for the rest of your marriage.............!)    :pin:



Yeah, what about the cigars?


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I've been puffin' off and on all day!    :clap:

I'm just in a surreal state of mind, I can't believe it's already here!

You misunderstand....the new father hands out cigars. GIMMEH!!

so..unless she goes into labor before then, you are inducing?

Congrats. You're not going to believe how much your life changes. For the better.

Well you still owe me some sticks so I'm electing to let you do that.

Scheduled C section.  Not what either one of us wanted, but the Dr. said the baby was too big and her bone structure was too small.. he said he didn't even want to try natural birth.  Of course the decision is still ours, but we trust the Dr's judgement. The wife was really disappointed by this, but I keep telling her how lucky we are to be becoming parents and how we felt when we tried for a baby for over a year, fearing we would be one of the unfortunate couples who just couldn't.  I think she's accepting it a little better today than when the Dr. told us yesterday.

It's not ideal, but there are some upsides.  It's planned, so we know when it will be and we can get everything in order.  I can drive her there and there's no chance of me being at work and getting the call and having to decide if I can get home to her in time.  The baby's head will be prettier upon birth!   :biggrin:  It's just the way it was meant to be.  Just excited and blessed to become parents.   :nod:  And super glad he's healthy!   :thumbup:

Vinnie, it's all natural no matter which way she delivers! I promise the joy will be no less than if you had been able to plan everying to the minute! When my daughter was born, we did the Lamaze method. Afterwards, I made my sister-in-law and my younger sisters promise they would have an epidural for their first born (they did it the next time, too!)! There is no good reason for the mom's physical torture and endangering the baby. I promise you are making the best decision and it will be no less joyous than if the stork himself delivered your child!

Be the MAN, my brother!!!!!


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yes, trust the doc. Our second one was a big baby and my wife is small, so it did lead to complications. She lost a lot of blood and had to be given blood, and she had epidural headaches as well.  It worked out fine in the end, but in retrospect a c section may have been a better option. A C-section is a surgery, and recovery time is a bit longer than vaginal birth, but she'll be allright, and like you said, it is scheduled and you know can plan ahead. Best of luck and let me assure you, being a dad is awesome!

When my step-son was born, he was his mother's first and last. C was a big boy and breach; his mother had, I think 82 stitches. Don't scare your wife with this, but give her a lot of support. Now you know why.


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Thanks guys/gals... You know, obviously my wife knows I'm a regalar poster here.  In fact when we would have big news such as the baby, one of the things she would ask is "have you posted it on the board yet?" then she loves reading the congratulatory abd encouraging responses.  I think your posts of encouragement have gone towards easing her mind about the whole thing.  A c section was not in her plans at all, but it is what it is.

You know, this is such a special time.  I find myself wanting to freeze time so i can take in these moments, but at the same time Wednesday can't get here soon enough.  It's so surreal.

Tonight as I was fumbling around trying to assemble his new playpen/bassinette she was laughing hysterically at me becoming frustrated with the instructions.  I think it's the hardest I've ever seen her laugh.  I can't really explain, but I just looked up at her and thought "God, what an amazing woman".  This is going to be such an incredible journey!

Well, you've seen it cycle through. She's no longer nesting and ready; you, on the other hand are panicked!

As far as the nursery, what the hell are you doing reading the instructions?!?!?!?!!!!!!! Build that stuff! You don't need instructions! Look at the picture.

Just when I thought you were a manly man.       :naughty:


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I will admit, I'm a nervous wreck assembling things for the baby.  So many warning labels!  "Your child's life depends on you doing this right."  :crazy:

Good Lord, son. Do you know how many people have survived when there's a little dirt in their food? I will bet you $100 right now that your child will eat his poop!

Kids are resilient! Have you ever seen a kid with a cast? It is no burden; they do what they do. Relax, the best you can. You make me smile!!!


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Ours were born via c-section as well. The recovery is harder on Mom, obviously, but that baby will be the prettiest one in the nursery and it won't be just your paternal bias making you think so.  :biggrin:

great post     :thumbup: *like*

Vinnie...my sister-in-law had 3 C sections because she was too small to deliver....she did fine.   So will your beautiful wife!   Can't wait to see pictures of "Little Vinnie Vol"!   We are all so excited for both of you!   You'll be a wonderful father -- of that I have no doubt!  :-)   

Vinne, I'm so happy for you! Seems like yesterday we were reading about the wedding. BTW, we need a contest to give your boy a board name. I'm gonna say V-Vol. :clap:

Great, great post, bud.   Everyone in the VTTW community, Vol or visitor, is really very lucky to have a board where they can make, or read, a post like this.

But next time ... just buy one that's pre-assembled, OK?!  As an old bachelor w/0 kids, I am fully qualified to make this recommendation!  :tongue:

I had the first C-section after 48 hours of intense pain that I was begging them to do something..they finally took my beautiful son by C-section when I could no longer take the labor...The next time I was pregnant..I told the doctor that if he did not do a C-section that I was outta there to find a doctor that would...She will be fine...the baby will be there in approximately 20 minutes after they start...:O)  You will cry when you see your first baby..be prepared..That is okee dokee..My big tuff son came to the door when his first daughter was born and said.." I just fell in love all over again!"  And he was boohooing like a little girl!  I was so proud of him...:O) Be ready for  the greatest time of your life...:O)  Vinnie I am so happy for you and the Mrs...Two great people bringing a beautiful life into this world. How good is that? :O) & hugs!  :angel: :wow: :wave: :powert:

Just thinking about it is already the best thing I can imagine.. I'm gonna be a wreck come Wednesday!

Congrats, Vinnie.  I hope you have everything glued or nailed down because your world is about to be turned upside down.

BTW, all three of my girls came via C-section.  Just some advice from one dad to another that has faced that......do everything you can to allow her to do nothing else but concentrate on being a mama.  You probably already knew that, but it is worth stating. And understand the emotional state she will be in during the whole process.  It can be stressful, especially if she is breast feeding and the kid ain't catching on quickly.  Hang in there.  No doubt you will be a great dad.

"It can be stressful, especially if she is breast feeding and the kid ain't catching on quickly"

I will second this....

Hey Vinnie........tick..tick..tick...tick....... :thumbup: 

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A nurse friend of mine said that playing the "suck suck suck" scene from Spaceballs where Skroob and Company are sucking out the air from Planet Druida is a good scene to help with that problem. 

I am sure that by now you have settled down and are as calm as you ever have been.

LOL!   :dielaughing:


Look at it this way...at least it's not a haunted house.  :laugh:

Hang in there.   :cool:

This is the longest day ever!  :-/

There is nothing like being a father... but take the time to savor today. The hours leading up to my kids being born were some of the most exciting times of my life. ESPECIALLY the first one because it's all so new and breathtaking.

The first time you see your child and the first time you touch your child will be moments that you will NEVER forget. I get tears in my eyes whenever I think about those moments. And it helps to think about those moments when your kids are being bad years later.  :laugh:

Seriously... every so often over the next few months take 5 minutes to breathe and think about what you are experiencing because you will blink and the baby days will be over and you will be sending your kid to their first middle school dance.  :bawl:

Ditto. For me, the tear-inducing moment was when, on the non-messy side of the curtain, we heard our baby's first cry. It is an undescribable moment.

Oh, Vinnie, that does make me think of one piece of advice.  You will be beside your wife's head, with a curtain blocking the 'scene'. If you stand up or look over the curtain to see the baby's head or any other time, DON'T LOOK DOWN.  I have a strong stomach, but when the Doc said I could look up and see the baby's head, I made the mistake of looking at the whole scene and saw more of my wife than I ever wanted to see. I immediately had to sit back down as I saw spots and my head got to spinning. Just a caution.

I get chills just thinking about that moment of hearing him for the first time.

Vinnie,

As a guy who just experienced this 7 1/2 weeks ago, I can tell you that everything you have heard so far is the truth.  I don't know what you and your wife have planned tonight but go to dinner, go to the movies, keep yourself busy.  The time will go by so slow today/tonight if you don't and this will be the last time you will get to be alone for awhile.

I was at my wife's head but saw the whole birth and saw my son arrive into this world and my heart just sank.  I was cutting the cord and my hands wouldn't stop shaking!  While they were cleaning him up, I was stroking his check because it made him not cry and I had this huge smile on my face that wouldn't come off.  The first time I got to hold him was unbelievable!

With that said, a couple of other pointers...if you wife is breast feeding, this will be a huge task for her because she will feel like she is exhausted with feeding every 2 to 3 hours.  In the middle of the night, GET UP with your wife.  I would sit on the couch with her in the dark but it made her feel better because it just wasn't her.  I don't know how you are with household chores but do the laundry, clean up after yourself, etc. 

After a couple of weeks, my wife couldn't keep up with my son's need for feed and we switched to the bottle.  It was great because I got the chance to help with the feeding.  There will be times your son will cry for long periods of time for no reason at all.  Just always realize it is worth it.  There will be times you want to scream....go outside and do it.  There are times when you will need to take the baby and tell you wife to get out of the house and recharge her batteries.  There are times when you will need to do the same!

With all that said, good luck tomorrow.  You and your wife will be in all our thoughts and prayers for a successful delivery.  Let us know how it went when you can

Thanks Memphisv, I've thought about you a lot because I know you'd experienced this recently.  It's overwhelming to think about but we're as ready as we're gonna be!  :-)

Glad you said that about them being bad, because one of mine was bad in school today (guess which one!), and I was going to scold her, but thought better of it. She's just going to have to go without a treat tonight.

Very, very well said!!!

GreggO

Good luck tomorrow!  My c-section turned 17 today...tomorrow is the first day of her senior year.  It passes quickly so savor every moment.

Have fun tomorrow Vinnie! You'll do great!

Let us know when he gets here...that means..how is the little woman....weight and height of the baby....name....and of course we need a picture with all the orange on...:O)  Tomorrow is almost here...for the rest of your life..get ready for the ride of your life.....:O) Love...and prayers coming your way! :O)s and hugs!  :angel:

Woo!!!